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Help i am feeling tempted to cheat??being attracted too??

Okay at 18 yrs of age when i had my daughter and at the time her dad was in prison .Her dad was 17 yrs old and had been coming home from a party drunk and hit someone putting that person in a coma.He spent 5 yrs in prison for this during this time I wrote him some letters to him and i sent some photos of his daughter to him.I went to college in mean time majored in interior design and graduated.Soon after i got engaged and married to my first hubby(lasted 2.5) who was a lawyer i caught him cheating when i made a suprise visit to one of his work related trips.After divorce i met my current hubby of 3 yrs who is a cop and got married after only 5 months.My daughter bio-dad who had been out of prison became a mechanic and started paying child support seeing his daughter everyother weekend.My new hubby did not like this at all and lots of fighting started.Currently we are seperated and my daughter father has been sleeping over some in living room.Is this bad? I have always had feelings for my daughters father but now it seems to have become kind of like sextual tension almost on top of feeling? My ex.bf only stays over sometimes not always.

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1. well just marry the guy maybe its ment to be now.
2. No. Your second husband should have been happy for your daughter her father had taken an interest, and was being a real dad. I wouldn't have any romantic relationships until your divorce is final. He probably knows the ex is sleeping there and isn't happy about it, don't add to the fire.
3. Not really bad but it could lead to something more than you might want it to. Unless you are ready for him to come to you and be part of your life...
4. If your still married to the cop, but separated, the arrangement is at best questionable. Cops have guns, and as you know, guns don't kill people, irate husbands who find there estranged wives ex-lovers "sleeping" over kill people, even if the irate husband happens to be a cop. Your right on the edge of a disaster, back off before it ends poorly.
5. Very bad you must not want your husband back yes your doing him a favor but him ebing in the house is making matters worst for you and your husband and confusing your daughter, you need to figure out what you want and soon before it's too late having him around is an invite for cheating, put yourself in your husbands shoes and the father of your daughters shoes and try and figure out whats on there minds, and what if you were in there situation?
6. While I think its great that your daughters father is stepping up and paying support and spending time with her, you need to take care of your marriage. You're husband is wrong for being angry about this, but its just jealousy. Get this guy out of your house, and try to reconcile with your husband. b4 its too late. I think that if you succumb to temptation things will get all the more screwed up!
7. Well, You have to search your own feelings and make a choice and live with it thats life! Good luck!
8. You are a nightmare woman. Can't keep your legs closed for a second and let any dude hit that death trap you call a mangina.
9. Yes. You are giving your daughter hope, whether it is your intention or not. You have to consider her feelings in this also.
10. Number one you should have never brought your daughter's dad in your house to stay and you are marry. Let's get real now, your husband is a cop and your daughter's dad just came out of prison that does not mix at all!! I would have kept your husband happy who is a cop than going after some criminal who won't be able to take care of you financially and treat you with respect. Get a man that works and is in a good position. Not a criminal!!
11. if you intend to get back with the husband, keep the x out of the house.
12. work on your family, and if husband doesn't like it tell him your daughter will always come first in your life!
13. I don't know..you married the second guy after only 5 months..you may want to think this out for a little while. You seemed to have made a good choice as far as furthering your education....Does the bio-dad...seem to be making good choices for himself and his daughter??? Kids make horrible judgment some times, especially when they are drinking...then to follow such a horrible guilt ridden accident with prison.....is he ok too? Does he need to seek counseling to completely heal from all of that??? Sometimes...God has a way of making things right....put your faith in him and you will know without a doubt what to do!!
14. Your new hubby probably didn't like the ex being around because he could tell the ex wanted you back again.
15. First, I will tell you that I will be biased. B/c my daughters father (not donor) spent 3 years in prison. And after that he truly knows the meaning of family, how important his daughter is to him. I make it point blank in the beginning of a relationship that he will not be going anywhere and if he needs anything I will help him. So I don't think it is bad that you let him sleep in the living room. You would let your best friend. But I think you still have feelings for him, so before you work things out with you husband resolve those. GOOD LUCK!