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How do i convince my husband its time to have a baby?

We got married young he was 19 and i was 21 when we got married we've been married for 5 years and i'm 27 and he's 25 I feel its time to start having a baby with in the next year or two cause i don't want to be so old when i have kids. He likes to go on trips and drive luxury cars - and feels he won't be able to do any of this . at times he tells me he doesn't want any cause his sisters kids are really bad -but since day one i told him that in the future i wanted kids and he said he did too but now he seems if - e but when we talk he mentions kids in the way future like oh our kids are gonna go to a good school and i'm gonna buy them a car when they turn 16 We both have good jobs and are planning on buying a house in a year or less. so what do i do sorry if im blabbing just frusturated . I've known since i was a kid that i wanted to be a mom let me know what i should do Mrs. FRUSTERATED Plus - i know he could be a great father

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1. I got married and had my child at 30, my husband was 37. He is still young if you ask me, and so are you. Enjoy both a little bit more and then, you will be able to give the best to your children. They are a big responsibility but I insist, a man should be over 30 to have a child and act "responsibly". Good luck !
2. dude, im 30, hes 24. i dont want kids myself yet and agreed we could have one when he is 30. enjoy your life, travel and experience things before its too late. Plus, whats your financial situation? Do u own a house? do you make enough money to live a comfortable life? do you have a stable life? theres a few things you need to go through before you can have a kid.
3. tell him how you feel, and i dont know how to put it in words, but say EXACTLY what you are think and feeling and he should have respect for you to listen to your comments, and what you have to say. good luck!!!!!!
4. Talk to him let him know all your feelings. My husband and I talked about having a baby but not really serious then it became very serious to me and I asked him how he felt. He said he liked the idea he just had to get used to it. You know the reality of sleepless nights and diapers again ( we have two 4 year olds). And so I gave him some time and I would mention it " have you been thinking any about the baby thing" and it wasn't long and he said .......... yeah let's start trying. You are my age and I know how you feel I don't want to be older with young children it's just my preference. And you can also remind your husband many times it takes a while to get pregnant. If the next year goes by and he is not ready I would really consider if you are willing to sacrifice having children to stay with him. I would think you and he have been thru good and bad since you have been together this long. Maybe he will come around soon. .... as they say Baby Dust....
5. Lay all this right on the table in front of him. If having children is something that is not negotiable, and clearly it is not, then he needs to know that no amount of time or luxury is going to change your mind. Be explicitly clear about what age you expect to start having children. If he isn't ready or doesn't want to go along with this then you have a difficult decision to make. The desire for children is something that some people have and some do not. There is a middle ground comprised of those people who adjust to parenthood because it is thrust on them. You may be viewing your husband through some pretty rose colored glasses. There are tons of men out there who want wives and children to come home to, I mean they really want it as much as you do. This is something that you should not be required to compromise on. But then, neither should he have to compromise. Someone wasn't being completely up front when this was being discussed BEFORE marriage. Whoever it is will be disappointed and that could only be a drag for everyone around that person. Good luck.
6. Some married folks are so happy without having children... you do not need to have children to feel complete. Children are alot of responsibility and they cost alot to keep. Find a hobby or go back to school, babysit or open a child care center for those children who do not have anyone to love them. There are alot of other things you can do. Being a mom is not all that good and it is so much work involved. Think really hard before you decide!
7. Girl do not rush having a baby, in most cases the mother bears the brunt of the burdens. Don't put yourself in a situation for him to say you wanted a child and he gave you one so deal with it. Exam the way he will deal with fatherhood or you with motherhood, keep someone's baby for a month to shed light on your situation. If you think it is only about the material stuff, you are less than half way through the other is emotional endurance. You as the mother will bear the pressure on the other hand he can walk and just pay child support.