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Am I being mentally abused?

I believe that my husband is mentally abusing me. I wanted to ask other people this question.He is always putting me down. He is in the marine corps and I am a full time house wife.If I ask him to do one thing as simple as taking the trash out on the weekends , he gets really angry and calls me lazy and slings stuff around.He always says that it is all my job.My response to that is " I dont go to your job and make it harder for you" But he says that I dont go to his job and help him either.Well in my opinion if he is going to continue to not pick up after himself he should atleast do a few things on the weekend.He says that he works five days a week and on the weekends he shouldnt have to do anything.And then every time he gets angry he always puts me down. I have threatened with divorce several times and he says " well if I leave then you have no money" He always calls it his money.He does not support me with my plans for college he says " Well high school didnt go that well for you, so what makes you think college will be any better". I consider that a put down. he also calls me fat with out just coming out and saying that, but he says it in a way. He also calls me a whore in a way every time he gets angry, And I have never given him a reason to think about me.He always acts so miserable.He says it because he doesnt have alot of money and he always has to spend it on bills.But he doesnt look at the fact that he has a nice car, nice clothes, a nice home, he can eat whatever he wants whenever he wants, and he has the luxury of a full pack of cigarettes everyday. I have mentioned couples therapy , but he says he doesnt want to go because all the thereapist will do is put all the blame on him. I dont know how much more I can take with him anymore.He always acts so miserable.Am I just being over sensitive or is this mental abuse?

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1. If your asking this question then you know in your own mind he is. No, your not being over sensitive. When married it is both of your money. He is very controlling it seems. Go to college and don't allow him to stop you. He tells you this because he doesn't want you to go, he knows if you go you will realize what he is doing and leave him.