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I'm at a weird point in my life and don't know what to do?

I am a new mom, baby at home. I am 30. My husband works. We make enough money to get by, but not enough to get ahead. We rent, but wished we could own our own home. I never finished college. I had a wild life before I settled down, and I worked in bars and traveled around. I live in a city that most of the good jobs are taken by those who are bilingual (French and English) and although I speak French I do not consider myself perfectly bilingual. I would like to go back to school but I don't know what I should even go back to school FOR. Any program is going to take me at least a year or two, and it's hard because we have a little baby. I just feel like I'm at a weird place in my life. I feel like I have so many different opportunities waiting for me, but no idea how to take the first step. I am afraid of embarking on the wrong path. I have done that before with college - I went for graphic arts, and graphic design, and quit both because I decided it wasn't what I liked doing. I also feel like I would be embarassed if I went to college at this age. Most of the people there would be ten years younger than me, and I would be older and kind of lost... I'm having such an identity crisis over it all! Part of me thinks it would be a good idea to be a nurse, part of me thinks it would be interesting to try and get a job at a travel agency, part of me wants to become a tattoo artist, and part of me would like to study law. And of course, part of me just feels like staying at home with my little baby which I love doing. Sigh... Any advice for a totally overwhelmed, lost, 30 year old mom with no idea what she wants to do with her life (Or rather, TOO MANY ideas about what she wants to do with her life!)

Public Comments

1. Your suffering from "Gee I wish I had of?" There is no real answer to your dilemma other than this small piece of advise. The only person in this world who knows what is right for you is.....YOU!. Second and almost as important in order to make others happy, you have to make yourself happy first. Choose a path and follow it. Along the way you may decide to change gears and go in another direction. There is nothing wrong with this. People change their lives all the time. Just be sure that you put your own happiness first and you'll discover those around you will be happy too
2. there is nothing wrong with going back to college at 30.my mom is 37 and she is back in college.its better late than never,if you wanna be somebody in life then you should go back and get a degree in something.plus you could always take online coarses. all you have to do is sort through those jobs and figure out which ones you like the most, which would bring you more money, and which one you could see yourself doing for the rest of your life. once your little baby gets to be my age, their gonna want a lot of things, and of coarse their not gonna get everything, but you dont wanna be tight on money everytime they(how ever many kids you have by then) ask you for something and then you have to say no EVERY time. think about it,i hope you decide to go back